People come to me all the time asking how they can improve their relationships. I have a simple formula that works like magic. All you have to do is just put it into practice and you will see what I mean. I call it the three c’s. Let me tell you about it. The first c is collaboration and I talked about that in a previous article. The second is consideration, and that’s what we’re going to talk about today. Finally, there is convenience, which I will discuss in a future blog post or article.
What does it really mean to be considerate? In short, being considerate means being considerate only of another person’s feelings or circumstances. The easier way to think about it is to look at it that way. If you’re being considerate, consider that you’re not walking in their shoes, so you have no idea what it’s really like. They look at all the obstacles in their path and take time to think about how this might affect them.
Considerate people don’t snap back when their partner is a little close to them. They take into account that the partner has had a rough day and they probably don’t want to be short. Considerate people listen more than others because they know the other person has their own unique problems and the only way to understand them is to ask and listen. Considerate people complain less and help more.
I heard a doctor say on the radio today, “It’s a scientific fact that husbands who do more housework get more sex than other husbands.” I posted this on Facebook and the resounding response (mostly from women) was “DUH!” If you are considerate of your partner, you will find that the rewards are exponential. Being considerate, like the other two cs, is not difficult. It’s just something you need to keep an eye on and focus on.
Consideration is the best way to develop your relationship into the healthy partnership you desire. Well it’s the best way if you include the other two Cs. Read more and learn how comfort is the final c that brings it all together! With the three C’s, you will find your relationship growing and healthier than you might otherwise have believed.