If for any reason you or your significant other are forced to move away, the need to salvage a long-distance relationship is the last thing on your mind. However, chances are that neither of you have any real idea how to make your long distance relationship work.
Initially, you’re both head over heels in love, and while you’re saddened at the thought of being apart, you’re both determined that nothing can stop you from being together. You guys make all the usual promises to each other and things go great for a while. The problem is, in all likelihood, you’ve never faced the reality of what it would actually be like to be hundreds or even thousands of miles apart, so you’re unprepared for the loneliness that is inevitably part of a long-distance relationship Package.
The initial excitement and determination to be together no matter what slowly and inevitably begins to fade, and that’s usually when the insecurities kick in.
You begin to wonder what your partner is up to. Maybe they don’t seem to miss you as much as you miss them; They may not be available to speak when you need to. If you are the one who is left behind, you have the added knowledge that your lover has started a new job and of course imagine that he is meeting a lot of new people and having a really exciting time. Of course, it is not always the person left behind who has the problems. In your relationship, you might be the one starting the new job and you don’t know anyone. Maybe you’re thinking about your partner at home, surrounded by friends and family, and wondering if they miss you as much as you do them, or if they’re thinking about you at all. But whatever your situation, that feeling of insecurity is awful and so soul crushing.
You want to talk to your partner, but you find it difficult to communicate because you are afraid of possible conflicts; that if your lover knew how you really felt, your relationship would end. At this point, you’re still not thinking about salvaging a long-distance relationship because chances are you’re burying your head in the sand, not realizing that if you don’t talk to each other, your relationship will inevitably fall apart.
At some point the loneliness gives way to frustration. You’re not getting what you want out of the relationship, so you start to hold grudges. Very often at this point it’s all about you – what your lover wants doesn’t seem to matter.
Frustration slowly turns to anger. Everyone around you seems to be in a relationship where they are surgically glued together. Your friends and family think you’re crazy and give you all sorts of well-intentioned advice; Unfortunately, it’s mostly negative and probably doesn’t involve saving a long-distance relationship!
Whether you realize it or not, you’re both now firmly at the point where you desperately need to save your long-distance relationship, and if neither of you do anything, you’ll start to lose the feeling of being in a relationship at all and drift towards it zu The last phase in every long-distance relationship breaks up – detachment.
One or both of you will endure the resentment and frustration and slowly begin to withdraw into yourself. Your communication dwindles to almost non-existent and when you do speak, neither of you have a say.
It may seem almost impossible at this point to salvage a long distance relationship as everything seems to be working against you, but before you pick up the phone and end it all, I want to say one last thing: it doesn’t have to be this way!
Ask yourself this question: Do you and your partner love each other? If the answer to this question is yes, believe me you can save your long distance relationship.
When love is still under all that crap that got in the way, you really can stop the slide and pull back together. Distance doesn’t have to be a deal breaker and you don’t have to be in the same room to share that special intimacy.
It won’t happen overnight, but if both of you are really willing to work at it, you will not only save a long-distance relationship, you’ll make it better than you ever thought possible.