It’s hard to see your son going through tough times. If you’ve ever wondered, “Why can’t my son find a girlfriend?” Then I have some possible reasons that we discussed on the dating women radio show that I co-host.
Incidentally, the advice you get here is suitable for minors. Our goal is to bring good women and good men into long-term relationships, so you won’t get sex talk here!
Is your son a “nice guy”?
This is a great trait, but could it be too nice? There are guys on our show who love being with women too much. Everyone around these guys is surprised they don’t have a girlfriend because they would treat someone so well. The problem is that such “nice guys” want to do too much for the object of their affection too soon.
Let’s put it this way, what if you rolled into your local car dealership and explained that you paid everything for that new car you just saw in the lot? Do you think you will make your best deal that day?
The same applies to women.
If he tells her (about his actions) that he will “pay” anything to be with her, then even the nicest girl will walk on him and get bored.
You don’t get what you deserve in life, you get what you DEAL.
Is your son the best he can be?
Does he take care of his mind and body equally? Women want a man who can talk about things beyond sports, and while he doesn’t have to be a supermodel, in our visual society he has a better chance with MORE women if he’s in good shape, clean, and wearing stylish clothes.
You see, dating is a lot like selling. The better your product, the more chance you have of making a sale. It’s not that you can’t make a sale with a limited selection, but it does make it harder.
Let’s put it this way, if you have 2 grocery stores side by side and one has the basics while the other has the basics plus a seafood stand, a deli that bakes its own bread and other conveniences, which store has a better chance of making more Sale?
Being the best he can be only helps him meet more women. Out of 100 women, maybe 20 care about how he is now, but he could increase that number to 40 if he’s in shape and wears nice clothes. It’s not a guarantee but I like his odds more with 40 women vs 20!
Is he too serious around women?
As Cyndi Lauper said in 1985, “Girls just wanna have fun.” do you remember this song It applies to dating and relationships with women. We tell guys all the time to keep it casual and fun when they date. She wants to laugh and have fun on a date.
If your son doesn’t have that type of personality, then encourage him to study the comedy greats, rent Cary Grant films (who was the most romantic character in film history), and take improv or comedy classes.
Is it a mystery and a challenge?
This is related to the “nice guy” entry at the beginning of the article. Women like to wonder about a man they are interested in. We tell guys not to tell girls anything personal about themselves during a date and to wait 5 to 9 days between dates to call them. We also tell them NOT to ask out on a date.
Basically, you want her to do most of the talking, laugh a lot, and then wonder if your son will ever call again! Her interest naturally rises in a guy she can’t understand and who’s hard to get hold of.
Is he a gentleman?
eyes on her. Pull out the chair. Go outside. Hold the door for her. No sexual comments. Make her laugh (see how important this is since I mentioned it again?).
Also, he must be strong enough to say no. When she gives him noise and he knows he’s being played, he has to stand up for himself. Too many men are just happy to date her because they are attracted to her. When I show respect, I expect respect in return. A good wife will appreciate that she cannot walk over your son.
Today’s boys have lost the art of chivalry, but good girls still want a gentleman!
Too many compliments and gifts?
He may give 2 compliments. When he picks her up, he can tell her she looks nice. When he drops her off, he can tell her he had a fun time. Tell him NOT to give flowers, sweets or anything like that.
Listen, I’m all about giving a woman compliments, flowers, candy, thoughtful cards, and other forms of affection if she’s my girlfriend, fiancee, or wife. However, in the INITIATIVE stages of dating, compliments and gifts are perceived as a feeble attempt to buy her affection.
If excessive gifts and compliments really worked, then every smooth-tongued rich man would live in happy relationships, and poor, shy guys would be lonely forever.
Keep in mind that she doesn’t respond to your son giving her an inordinate amount of things, be it attention or gifts. She wants to laugh, have fun, but also wonder how many women are after her son.
Does he put himself in the right position to meet women?
Does he play online Friday night and then go to the nightclub on Saturday and the sports bar on Sunday? These might be the wrong places to meet amazing women.
Online dating, speed dating, volunteer events, wine tasting, cooking classes, dance classes are all viable options for meeting great women. Also, in these settings you have a better chance of getting to know her as a person and of course we want to match your son with a woman who has a flexible and giving personality who is clinically healthy!
If you’ve ever wondered “why doesn’t my son find a girlfriend” then I hope this article has been of some help to you.
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